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When your friends do not understand your mental health issues


Last updated 9/27/2019 at 7:53pm

Stanley Popovich - Special to Village News

You struggle with fear, anxiety, depression or addiction. Eventually relatives and closest friends find out about your problems. The problem is that some people get on your case, and they do not understand what you are going through.

Here are six ways on how to deal with your friends regarding your mental health issues.

1. Listen to the professionals and not your friends. Your friends may mean well, but when it comes down to it, the professionals know your situation more than anyone. They know what you are going through and are trained to deal with your situation. Your friends do not have the answers to your medical condition. When you have questions about your mental health recovery, consult with your counselor or other mental health professional. Listen to them and follow their advice and not your friends.

2. Your goal is to get better. Concentrate on how you can overcome your fears and anxieties. Don’t waste your time arguing with your friends or relatives who are giving you a difficult time. This isn’t a public relations event where you need to get approval from your friends. This is your life and you are the one suffering. Your main focus is for you to get better.

3. Tell your friends to learn about your condition. Tell your friends and relatives that the best way for them to help you is to learn about your mental health issues. They could talk to a counselor, read some good books or join a support group to better understand your situation. If your friends won’t, then stay away from them. They will only make things worse.

4. Distance yourself from people who give you a difficult time. Distance yourself from those people who won’t make an effort to help understand what you are going through. You need to surround yourself with positive and supportive people. If you have problems or issues with a particular person, you can always ask your counselor for advice on how to deal with them.

5. Join a local support group. Go to a support group in your area and talk with the other members of the group who understand what you are going through. It is a great way to meet people who understand your problems.

6. Take advantage of the help that is available around you. If possible, talk to a professional who can help you manage your depression and anxieties. They will be able to provide you with additional advice and insights on how to deal with your current problem. By talking to a professional, a person will be helping themselves in the long run because they will become better able to deal with their problems in the future.

Stan Popovich is the author of “A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods.” For additional information, visit


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