Husband of missing Fallbrook woman shares his story as search continues
"The only thing that matters to me is that she shows up, period"
Last updated 11/11/2021 at 5:36pm
Missing Fallbrook woman Elena Roy's husband spoke to Village News in an exclusive interview Saturday, Nov. 6, pleading for the return of his wife who, as of press time, hadn't been seen since Wednesday, Nov. 3.
"The only thing that matters to me is that she shows up, period," Chris Cataldo said, adding that he had been dealing with false reports of her disappearance from "all over town."
Roy, who disappeared between 1:30 and 1:45 p.m., is white, 5 feet, 4 inches tall and weighs about 120 pounds. She has graying dark hair and wears glasses and was wearing a white, light blue and dark blue top with dark pants, a silver and turquoise bangle bracelet and blue leather-soled shoes with flowers on them. She does have her purse with her, he said.
"There has been no bank activity on any of her cards," Cataldo said.
Roy's disappearance prompted a full-scale search with hundreds of volunteers taking to the streets, alleyways and even rural areas surrounding Fallbrook in an attempt to find her. As of press time, she remains missing.
Search and Rescue had about 60 people out looking for Roy according to her son, Jerry Swart.
"They had the helicopter out for two days along with drones and dogs," he said.
Lt. Arens with the San Diego County Sheriff's Department's Media Relations Office spoke with Village News Saturday, Nov. 6, saying that the San Diego Sheriff's Department pulled back the Search and Rescue Teams from the search.
"I'm not sure the reason or if they are still looking," Arens said, adding that he wasn't "privy" to the investigation. "But yet Search and Rescue was out there for two days. I know they took today off. I don't know if they are regrouping to figure out where she might have went, or where to have the volunteers search."
Sgt. Jason Scroggins with the San Diego County Sheriff Department's Fallbrook station said that the call initially came into the department as a request for a deputy to call Cataldo, not as a missing person report at 8:17 p.m., Nov. 3.
"It was dispatched at 8:19 p.m.," Scroggins said. "When the call came in, it wasn't called in as a missing person, it was a request for a phone call from a deputy. ... It said, 'he did not want to enter his wife as a missing person at risk until he speaks to a deputy.' It came in as a phone request and a deputy called him; then at 8:50 p.m. it changed to a missing person. I don't know at what exact time the phone call was made (by the deputy)."
Scroggins said that there had been several calls to the department reporting possible sightings of Roy, but that none had turned out to be "fruitful."
"There was a similar looking lady in stature that was seen in different places and we spent some time tracking that down and we were able to ultimately determine it wasn't her," he said. "She was dressed similar, had a beanie on, so we had reason to believe that might have been Miss Roy but it wasn't and we were able to verify that."
Cataldo said that Roy, who he said prefers to go by her maiden name Lorea, has had "incrementally increasing dementia" issues over the past four or five years.
"It has been gradually getting worse over time," he said. "She did take off on me one time when we were at Grocery Outlet and she got mad that I was trying to adjust her mask. Before I knew it, I turned around and she was gone. That was disconcerting."
Cataldo said the last time she disappeared, about a year ago, she did turn up before dusk."That didn't happen this time. As we got fairly close to dusk, I went out and looked for her," he said, adding that Roy is an avid walker.
He said the last time Roy disappeared, the people who found her took her to the sheriff's substation and that is what he thought would happen this time as well.
Cataldo said they have lived in Fallbrook for the past eight years and that Roy's children did not want the couple to get married.
"They were sure, they were sure I was the wrong guy for her and if it wasn't for the pastor, we probably wouldn't have been able to get together," he said, adding that she is the "light of his life."
"I would die for her," he said. "I would die for her right now today to have her back and that is no joke."
According to Cataldo, the couple are together all the time. They were, he said, inseparable.
"Part of the problem is that she gets bored in Fallbrook, she does have incremental dementia," he said. "She can carry on a sparkling conversation with you; problem is, she can't tell you where she lives or her phone number or even how to get back here."
Private Investigator Tony Campbell talked to Eric from Fallbrook Auto Works, who is Roy's regular mechanic. He said he spotted her Wednesday on the east side of Main Street.
"Eric thought that was between 1 and 2 p.m. and she was headed north on Main Avenue," Campbell said. "He was 100% sure it was her. He did not know if she was carrying a purse."
Cataldo said he was unaware that Eric from Fallbrook Auto Works spotted her Wednesday on the east side of Main Street until later in the day.
Ross Curtis, an Allstate agent on Mission Road, reported to the Sheriff's department that he thought he saw Roy sitting on Beech Street next to the Citrus Plaza between 3 and 3:30 p.m. Thursday, Nov. 4. He said the Sheriff's department came out and also went inside the Citrus Plaza looking for her. "We have clients who get dementia and when you see a person that seems out of the ordinary, it catches your attention," Curtis said, adding that he thought he had seen her before. He has had clients with dementia who have shown up in his office five or six times a day, so he's worked with the families to make sure they are aware.
Due to Roy's dementia, "she doesn't like to be apart from me or left alone," Cataldo said, adding that, as like most dementia patients, she gets mad about the slightest thing.
"She comes back and she doesn't even remember what she was mad about," he said. "She apologizes and that's that."
Cataldo said that it was a recurring problem, but that she had promised that she wouldn't do it again.
"In my gut I knew I really shouldn't fully believe her," he said. "I didn't think she would go this far, this long."
He said the police have asked him to stay at home in case she showed up.
"She hasn't showed up, it's been cool days, cold nights, fog and it destroys me to think where she might be, she might be in a ditch half dead or fully dead or something," he said, adding that he hoped he was wrong, but after this long of a period of time odds were that she wouldn't be coming back.
"I hope that I am wrong, but I am holding out hope," he said.
Cataldo said that he called the police after searching for his wife and that it took some time for deputies to respond and then there was over an hour of questioning by police before he was finally able to notify the rest of the family.
"It took over an hour and they had tons of questions for me," he said of the police response. "The next day they come out, search the entire place and had tons more questions. Then Search and Rescue got in and they have tons of questions."
He said the first thing after he finished with the police Wednesday night, he called Roy's daughter Jessica to let her know her mother had been missing for about seven hours.
"She got the call right after I got done with the cops who needed to know first," he said.
Scroggins said that the police have "exhausted all available leads." He said police have searched "about a five-mile radius" around Roy's home and that at this point they are really relying on tips from the public.
"We are almost to the needle in the haystack stage of it where she could be anywhere. That's where we are relying on the community as a whole," he said. "We are getting it out on our social media and those types of things to have people who hopefully have seen something or remember something about her to give us an area to go search."
Scroggins said in addition to helicopters, drones and search and rescue dogs, rescuers are searching on foot as well.
"We had some people out in the DeLuz area yesterday (Sunday, Nov. 7) looking around," he said.
Scroggins encouraged residents to check any abandoned vehicles, any outdoor storage areas and around their property and anywhere that a person could possibly be for any signs Roy might have been there and to report anything suspicious to the police.
"We rely on the public and the community as a whole," he said. "Without the community support and participation there is a lot of stuff we can't do. We can't go into people's yards and places they can check for us. Who knows the property better than the property owner?"
Scroggins said that since Fallbrook is a rural community there are a lot of places where someone could be, without being detected.
"In some cases you could be 10 feet off the road and we would never see you unless you wanted to be seen," he said. "That's why we need the community and those property owners who are out there to be vigilant and if they see something that doesn't look right to call us. We'd rather chase 100 false sightings than miss the one that would lead us to recover Miss Roy and bring her home."
Cataldo, who said he misses his wife and just wants her home, said that he and Roy had grown closer over the pandemic.
"I am around her all day, every day," he said, adding that he almost went with her Wednesday when she left to go for a walk but that he was trying to give her space.
"I wish to hell I had gone with her," he said. "Because that is what I am going to remember for the rest of my life. I will never forgive myself for that and I don't care what people say. I know me and I know her and I just didn't want to piss her off even more. If I had she would be here today and I would have forgone all of this."
Cataldo said he would pay the price for that decision.
"More importantly, she is paying the price for that," he said.
Anyone with possible information about Roy's whereabouts should call the sheriff's department at 760-451-3100, or 911.
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